He’s just not that into you Is it a ! Or ? Birthday-Worst-Case-Scenario
It’s your Birthday. Your significant other (SO), the one you love and (you thought) love you in return didn’t give you a birthday present. How would you feel? At that moment, you, as a person who considered yourself belong to the type of person who thinks that a birthday is just the same as any other day (ffuiih..), would have taken it casually if you were in that situation. But that was way before you experience it yourself and rethink about it thoroughly
Does anyone know why a SO might do that?? Is that one of the symptoms of a ‘he-is-just–not-that-into-you’ phrase?
Thinking positively, he might have been out of cash. Or even more positive, he probably has bought the gift and save it to be given later as a surprise. Or, probably it’s only you who’s taking it personal.
But still, it doesn’t make any sense in your cognition system (halaaah…). If he was running out of money, how come he didn’t prepare for it earlier? Why didn’t he save his money from weeks before? Though you did hear him say several times about giving you a birthday present. But when the day comes? It’s a capital nothing
In addition to that, you also thought that he should have given you a present since he knew that you were about to leave town for quite a long time. (So what gitu loh!)
After you are tired of rationalizing excuses, you can’t help yourself from thinking negatively. Starting with “he doesn’t love me like he always says”, “well, maybe he do love me, but not as much as I thought/expected/as much as I do”, or “I’m not that important to him”, or “he is not that attentive nor care enough” and bla bla bla …
And you keep saying “it’s not like I wanted a present!” But the fact that he put less effort into it, into you, and lack of attention, which finally lead you to the thoughts mentioned previously. Those are the matters!
So, what are you then? A double-standard gal? Who thought of yourself as different from others but as a matter of fact you are just like common people who expects birthday presents, and of course, expects so much love in return…
Thinking positively, he might have been out of cash. Or even more positive, he probably has bought the gift and save it to be given later as a surprise. Or, probably it’s only you who’s taking it personal.
But still, it doesn’t make any sense in your cognition system (halaaah…). If he was running out of money, how come he didn’t prepare for it earlier? Why didn’t he save his money from weeks before? Though you did hear him say several times about giving you a birthday present. But when the day comes? It’s a capital nothing
In addition to that, you also thought that he should have given you a present since he knew that you were about to leave town for quite a long time. (So what gitu loh!)
After you are tired of rationalizing excuses, you can’t help yourself from thinking negatively. Starting with “he doesn’t love me like he always says”, “well, maybe he do love me, but not as much as I thought/expected/as much as I do”, or “I’m not that important to him”, or “he is not that attentive nor care enough” and bla bla bla …
And you keep saying “it’s not like I wanted a present!” But the fact that he put less effort into it, into you, and lack of attention, which finally lead you to the thoughts mentioned previously. Those are the matters!
So, what are you then? A double-standard gal? Who thought of yourself as different from others but as a matter of fact you are just like common people who expects birthday presents, and of course, expects so much love in return…
This writing would probably lead to another reflection ‘WANITA:Lain di Mulut, Lain di Hati???’
Quotes of the day ^Tidak ada orang lain yang bisa BENAR-BENAR membantu kita melainkan kekuatan dalam diri (inner strength)
^Follow your heart, try your best, take a risk, or you’ll never know…
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